Why Do I Feel Bad After Talking to Them?

Emotional manipulators manipulate your emotions in order to make you feel bad.  They do this by poking at your insecurities, vulnerabilities, and weaknesses.  They will judge you.  They will insult you.  They will poke your bubble.  They will drag you down.  They will make you feel guilty.  They will shame you and invalidate your feelings.  

They like to pick at your insecurities and make you feel worse after interacting with them.  They want to inject you with negative feelings or just deflate your good mood.  When they are in a bad mood, they will inject you with their poisonous attitude, making you feel bad too.  It gets to the point where you dread being around them and don't want to talk to them anymore.  So, you just let the relationship die on its own.   

If you feel bad, mad, depressed, annoyed, frustrated, or any other negative emotion after 3 or more interactions with someone - you must re-evaluate the relationship.  Ask yourself these questions:   

• Why am I in this relationship?

• What am I getting out of it?  

• What's the point in talking with them if they are just going to put me in a bad mood? 

***Fill out the relationship evaluator in the Psych Bible E-Journal to help you decide how to deal with these kinds of toxic people.