Bad Relationships Can Make You Fat
When you are in a toxic relationship with someone that you have to deal with - like a spouse, parent, or boss - it can take a really big toll on your physical health.
Being around a person who is toxic to you can make you feel bad about yourself all the time. Those negative feelings lead to depression. Depression leads to not caring about yourself anymore. That leads to emotional eating and feeling unmotivated to exercise.
This vicious cycle makes us fatter and fatter. Not to mention all the medical complications that come with it, like diabetes and high blood pressure. It can be very difficult to break out of these relationships because we cannot leave the relationship very easily. They make us stuck.
If we are married to the toxic person, we are legally bound to them. Not to mention, if there are kids in the picture. There are financial and custody issues at stake that make it even more difficult to navigate.
If the toxic person is our parent, it can be very difficult to cut the emotional cord. The parent may feel entitled to make you feel miserable because that's how they feel. You may feel obligated to stay in a relationship with them because they are a parent.
If the toxic person is your boss, and you cannot easily quit your job because of a lack of options, that takes a huge toll on your mental, physical, and emotional well being. We all need money to pay our bills.
You literally have to be superman or superwoman to be able to withstand and ignore the barbs they throw at you. If you can grow yourself to be super human and ignore the toxic person in your life, that's awesome. More power to you.
Otherwise, try to understand that the problems they are throwing at you - are the result of their toxic stuff they are holding inside of them. It's their jealousy, envy, or insecurity. They don't know how to handle their problems and issues, so they have to throw them at someone else. That is their coping mechanism.
If these toxic relationships have made you fat, the best thing you can do for yourself is to leave the relationship if you can. The person will probably never change and treat you better. They don't care how their behavior is impacting you and your mental, emotional, and physical health. If they cared about your well being, they would change their behavior.
The solution is to care about yourself more than the toxic relationship. Do what's in your best interest. Put more emotional and physical distance between you and them if you need to. Don't ever let a bad relationship ruin your health. It's not worth it and it has long term health consequences.
***If you want to break free from this type of relationship, fill out the worksheets in the Psych Bible E-Journal to help you forge a new path for yourself.